Couples

Therapy for Couples

Shakti: Couples attend counselling for a variety of reasons: sometimes it’s just to strengthen some weaker points in the relationship and sometimes it’s because there is a crisis in the relationship. If you and your partner are interested in addressing issues in your relationship I will meet with the two of you to hear about your challenge. After our first meeting, if we all agree to proceed I will email you an assessment to complete, and will meet with each of you individually to hear your perspectives. During our third meeting we will review what has emerged as themes in your relationship.
I have been trained in Gottman Couples work and so will draw on the many tools available through this program. We will use a structured approach to build skills and deepen connection that will assist in resolving the struggles in your relationship. You will usually be given tasks to work on in between sessions so that you are integrating the tools you’re learning.

About the Gottman approach:

  • Developed by John and Julie Gottman and based on over 40 years of research in the “love lab” in the United States.
  • Involves a very structured approach to working with couples including assessment and treatment.
  • Teaches helpful and relevant communication approaches that allow you to deepen into intimacy.
  • Accepts that some issues are unresolvable — called “perpetual issues” and keep resurfacing in the relationship.
  • Couples learn to use a softened start up when entering into conflict
  • Supports the noticing and acknowledgement of bids for attention.
  • Through specific homework assignments, couples learn to re-establish closeness and connection, sharing their dreams with one another